Moving your large family away from everything they know is such a big decision. Leaving behind family, friends, convenience, familiarity to move a large distance to an unfamiliar ground isn’t something that can be a flippant thought.
Over the last 10 years or so we’ve moved home 5 times, each time our little family had grown. The difference though between them is that the first four were within the same area. There were no real changes to routines, schools, friends or family, we had purely moved for better homes.
The last time we moved though was completely different. We moved our large family of four children 94 miles from everything we knew. It would take two hours for us to visit family or vice Versa. The children would change schools, they were leaving behind friends and so would we.
We’ve been here now for four years and I wanted to share with you some tips and thoughts that I’ve learnt or battled along the way.
Why are you moving your large family?
I think this is the first question you should ask, one that you really need the answer to. Your why can be anything, a better life for the kids, schools, opportunities, work, a fresh start.
The main deep root for us to move was for the kids. We were living in an area that could have affected them in one of two ways. Either they would work hard and remain good kids or they could get caught up in the estate mentality and be presented with not so nice choices.
We wanted them to have better opportunities and access to a more focused education.
What is your why?
Check out the schools within the area that you’re considering. What are their reports like? Make appointments for visits.
Technology is at its most powerful right now. Whether we are down the road or hundreds of miles apart, it’s never been easier to talk.
This one is coming from a place of experience. We thought that moving close to a popular holiday area would make job hunting a breeze. A complete false sense of security.
Seasonal work makes up the majority of positions available and that’s ok if you don’t mind hopping from one seasonal job to another. The worry then comes when everything shuts down for the winter. The businesses that stay open longer tend to not allow time off during the Season, therefore, time off with the kids in the summer holiday is a no go.
You can look further a field if travelling isn’t a problem, that’s what my other half did until he found something that suited us better.
One thing I really took for granted was the convenience of living in the city. I lived opposite a huge Asda and a shopping precinct full of major stores. We quite literally had everything on our doorstep. We now live opposite a cheese farm, yes, in the middle of nowhere, on top of a hill.
The closest Asda to us is around an hours drive, the local Tesco is half an hour away and really only caters for holiday makers so stocks higher priced brands.
We knew that we’d be travelling for shops and accepted that we’d end up as the ‘Taxi of mum and dad.’
Don’t be afraid to get involved. For the first few months, I Stayed in home happily being a mum and making our new home comfortable. That slowly wore thin and I needed to break out of the four walls.
Facebook is your friend.
Search for any local network groups and selling pages. Follow local businesses or mums groups. Join in with the chat and banter. I found a lovely little fitness Studio that was full of amazing ladies that kept me sane.
IT’S NOT WORKING
I’m serious. Don’t ever feel stuck or embarrassed to go back if things are not right or working out. Nothing is permanent and nothing has to be forever.
We always as a family talked about and agreed to let each other know when things are feeling tough.
We came together, we stay together, we fight together, we leave together.
We’re a few years down the line now but those moments have definitely come up and no doubt will again at points. But for now, we’re ok. Take on board the situation, agree to try a little longer, if things change then great and if not then start making new plans.
Moving is an awfully big adventure.
I would love to hear about your adventures, your ups and downs. I also understand how hard it can be both emotionally and mentally. Please get in touch if you need someone to talk to outside of your situation ~ Email me.
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